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  1. Hi Delyana!

    I loved this post. It’s important to be reminded of the emotions we experience that we may not be so fond of, and more people need to read this.

    I’ve been working over the past 2 years on my boundaries, controlling my reactions and even gaining my power back in situations that I cannot control. I experience fear and disappointment often by letting others reactions hurt me.

    But one of the best things I can remind myself of it is that I cannot control others reactions and that has nothing to do with me.

    Whenever I feel myself starting to tunnel into one of these emotions I breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, breath out for four counts and hold for four counts again and repeat. This helps me to think more clearly, process what I’m feeling and learn to define what my trigger was.

    Amazing post! I wish you the best!

  2. Hi, I read your post, and it’s great. I like the questions that I can ask myself.

    ”What emotion am I feeling right now?” and ”What circumstances are creating this emotion?”

    Sometimes answering can be difficult, especially when you wake up in the morning and you have absolutely no idea of “What circumstances are creating this emotion” in oneself.

    1. I agree with you. Sometimes you feel the emotion, but you just don’t know where it came from. It probably came a long time ago but it was so small back then that you didn’t even pay attention to it. My advice is to be conscious about when this negative pattern is occurring in your life. Whenever you feel the emotion, write it down on a piece of paper and then describe what was happening around you. When you’ve done this enough times, you will start seeing patterns and rid yourself of the negative emotion.

      I hope this helps 😉

  3. I think you have pretty good information here. I find that dealing with negative emotions takes a lot of practice. Anger is what I have trouble dealing with the most, but I like the idea of hoping I misinterpreted the situation, in order to relieve my anger. Thanks for helping me look at things in a different manner.

    1. You are 100% right. It’s easier said than done. Sometimes we know that we should not indulge in the negative emotion, but we like feeling like a helpless victim. I’ve been there and what has helped me the most is to remember where I want to end up. I ask myself ”Will this negative thinking take me to where I want to go?” And the answer is ”of course not”. Remember that thought become things, so focus on the positive ones and listen to the action signals of the ”negative ones”

  4. Fear is even stronger than love, but only if you let it affect you. I’ve grown to love this emotion so much since it gives me the additional drive I need to wake up in the morning and get sh*t done.

    It can be a lifesaver, but only if you learn how to roll with it. Leave it as it is, and I’m sure you’ll feel how terrifying that ‘freezing’ feeling can be.

    Such a lovely post and I’m more than grateful that I came across by it. Keep up the excellent work, Delyana. You just got a new fan!

    1. Thank you so much Gorjan. I really appreciate your comment and you are absolutely right that fear can be used as fuel to reach your goals. So nice to have you around 🙂

  5. Hi Delyana,

    loved your post! yes emotions really are body wisdom. Once we are really connected to our bodies we can learn so much.

    I had a serious disease 8 years ago and by knowing my body I was able to heal myself. There is such a deep connection inside us and when we access it our life really does change.

    Your post will help many people, thank you,

    Kev

    1. That’s amazing Kevin. Yes, there is a huge correlation between our mind and our physical body. Right now I am reading the book ”You can heal your life” by Louise Hay and there she talks about how most of our diseases are creations of the mind. So yes, emotions really do play a huge role in our lives and we should not neglect them. I am so happy that you were able to heal yourself from the disease 🙂

  6. This was a great article. I think of emotions as a guidance system – our Emotional GPS so to speak. When you are feeling off, your emotions are trying to tell you that you need to re-center and re-focus your thoughts and energies.

    Your three-step approach of 1. Acknowledging the emotion, 2. being grateful for the emotion, and 3. learning from the emotion are spot on.

    Think of emotions like a scale. Fear and hate and hopelessness are at the bottom of the scale and love and joy are at the top. We’re really reaching for the top emotions. And your negative emotions (depending on which ones they are) tell you how far you are from your ultimate goal of joy. So by acknowledging, appreciating, and learning from our negative emotions we move closer to love and joy.

    1. Wow, that was an amazing explanation Kevon! I loved how you said that emotions are our GPS and that there is a scale of emotions. You are absolutely right. We should aim for the top!

  7. Wow, this is interesting, we all have emotions and these emotions are seen in our everyday lives without us have to think. We just respond automatically, this is how the brain works depending on the situation. Thanks for making this so clear.

  8. Wow! Such a wise insight into how we act/react in our own world!

    This quote comes to mind….
    “There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

    I think it my have been Shakespeare.

    “If you tie your happiness to the actions of others or events that you can’t control, you will never feel truly happy.”

    This is so true, but not enough people think like this. Don’t be a passenger in your own life: Be yourself, and the driver of your own car, on a journey to where YOU want to go!

    Love this article ❤️ It breaks down into easy-to-understand chunks, what we all go through as human beings. So emotionally intelligent! Thank you.

  9. Delyana, you make it seem too easy, or maybe it is that I get you. I am very emotional and being able to understand what you are sharing means I can hear my self-communication much clearer. Then I can respond more proactively instead of creating towards what I feel at that time.

    Thank you, for your generous sharing.

    Ntlhane

    1. Thanks for stopping by and I really understand how you feel. My advice to you would be to take things one step at a time. Just start by bringing awareness to how you feel during the day. Ask yourself often ”How am I feeling right now?” and write down your answers. You’ll then see that certain activities/thoughts create certain emotions. When you change the cause, the effect will disappear.

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