What Are Your Negative Emotions Trying to Tell You? Have you ever been in this situation when something doesn’t feel quite right, but you don’t know what it is? I think we’ve all been in that situation.
We feel certain emotions, but we don’t know why they are there or how to deal with them. We often never question our positive emotions. When we are happy, we enjoy the feeling, but we want to get rid of it as soon as possible when we feel a negative emotion.
In this article, I will tell you about the top five negative emotions and what they are trying to tell you. By the end of this article, you will know exactly how to overcome these emotions as soon as they arise.
Emotions Are Body Wisdom
Before we begin, let me make one thing clear – emotions are body wisdom. They are there to tell you something. Emotions are a call to action. They are the most fantastic gift human beings have been given.
Emotions are faster than intellect. When you accidentally put your hand on a hot stove, you instinctively draw your hand back. If you had to analyze the situation intellectually, you might end up without a hand by the time you are done thinking.
Emotions are neither positive nor negative. They are simply action signals. They are always there to support you and help you live a better life.
Emotions are your best friends. However, if you misinterpret their meaning, they can be your worst enemies.
Top 5 ”Negative” Emotions & What They Are Trying To Tell You
Everyone has fears. Some fears are very useful, such as run away when someone is attacking you. But other fears are just destructive, such as what bad things might happen in the future.
When fear arises, most people do one of two things. They either try to ignore it, or they indulge in it to the degree of feeling stressed all the time.
Neither of those is the correct response to what fear is trying to tell you.
The Message: Be prepared!
Fear is nothing more than the expectation that something terrible is about to happen and that you are unprepared for it.
You either have to get prepared for what may come or change the way you view the situation.
Get clear on what you feel fearful about and what you have to do to prepare yourself mentally.
What small action can you take immediately that will make you feel less fearful?
The antidote for fear is action. No matter how long you spend thinking about your fear, the fear won’t go away unless you take action.
Most fears never realize themselves. They only exist in your mind. So ask yourself, ”Is this something I have to feel fearful about?”, ”What’s the worst thing that can happen?”
You will see that often, you exaggerate the fear. But sometimes, our fears do turn into reality, and we experience the feeling of hurt.
We’ve all felt hurt, whether that will be in our personal or professional life. The feeling of hurt is probably the most dominant human emotion.
The feeling of hurt arises when we feel like we’ve lost something. It can be the feeling that we’ve lost the trust in someone, the connection with someone, or something else.
The Message: Your expectations were not met.
We often feel hurt when we expect someone to act in a particular way, but they do something completely different.
The funny thing is that we never communicate our expectations most of the time, and then we wonder why the other person was not able to read our thoughts.
Realize that you haven’t lost anything. It’s possible that the other person doesn’t even realize the negative effect his/her actions have on your life.
Ask yourself, ”Have I really lost anything, or am I making conclusions way too fast?”
The last and probably the most important thing is to tell the other person how his/her actions make you feel. Ask him/her how he/she views the situation.
That way, both of you will have greater compassion for each other, and you will even get closer.
Anger can come in many different forms. It can come in the form of slight irritation to resentment and rage.
This is one of the most damaging emotions if you indulge in it. But if you understand the message anger is trying to tell you, you’ll feel better immediately.
The Message: Your boundaries have been violated in some way.
Whether you are conscious about it or not, you have boundaries that act as your guiding system. They help you make decisions about what’s right and what’s wrong.
When one of your boundaries have been violated by someone else or maybe even yourself, you feel angry.
The good thing is that once you realize the message anger is trying to tell you, you can change your emotional state in seconds. Just ask yourself this question: ”What boundary of mine has been violated?”
Realize that you may have misinterpreted the situation. Maybe the other person didn’t make you angry on purpose. He/She may not have known that this thing is important to you.
Don’t think that the other person must know all your boundaries. Communicate them to the people who make you feel angry.
Let them know what’s important to you and ask them what’s important to them and come up with a solution that’s beneficial for both of you.
Disappointment arises when you feel like you have been betrayed. You expected more than you received, and that made you feel sad and defeated.
The Message: Stop having expectations from others!
If you tie your happiness to the actions of others or events that you can’t control, you will never feel truly happy.
Your happiness depends on no one but yourself. Stop having expectations from others. Focus on making yourself happy and make others happy. That’s the key to fulfilment and joy in life.
You often feel disappointed when you have unrealistic expectations. You can’t plant a seed today and expect it to grow to a strong tree a week later.
You must be patient. As long as you have hope and take persistent action, there is no way to fail.
Don’t have expectations from others. The only person you can truly rely on is yourself. You can’t control other people’s actions. You can only control your actions and the way you interpret situations.
Last but not least, remember that your past does not equal your future. Just because you failed in the past doesn’t mean that you should stop trying.
We’ve all done something that we later regretted. But for some of us, this feeling stays with us for years, and we can’t seem to let go of the guilt.
The Message: You violated your boundaries.
The feeling of guilt shows that you have violated one of your inner rules and must take immediate action to prevent the same mistake from happening in the future.
The most important thing is to face the emotion as soon as it arises. Don’t try to push it down because it will only grow stronger. This is true for all emotions.
Don’t indulge in guilt either. Don’t fall victim to learned helplessness. It won’t do any good.
Guilt is there to create enough pain to make sure you never again violate your boundaries.
Just as every other feeling, the feeling of guilt is trying to push you towards taking action and changing for the better.
When you feel guilty, admit to yourself that you have violated one of your inner boundaries.
Realize that you can’t change the past and that the best thing you can do is learn from the situation and promise yourself never again to violate that boundary.
Once you’ve decided never again to commit the same mistake, there is no need to hold on to the emotion of guilt. Release it and move on with your life.
How To Act When a ”Negative” Emotion Arises
Even though every emotion has its particular meaning, I like to go through a simple 3 step process whenever I feel a negative emotion.
1. Acknowledge The Emotion
Realizing that you feel a particular emotion without being reactive is a huge accomplishment.
Most people never take the time to reflect on what emotions they are feeling. They are controlled by their emotions instead of them controlling the emotion.
2. Be Grateful For The Emotion
Remember that emotions are body wisdom. They tell you when something isn’t right in your life even before your brain has had the time to process it.
Emotions are neither negative nor positive. They are just there to tell you a message.
Be grateful for this fantastic feedback system that you have.
3. Learn From The Emotion
Now that you have acknowledged the emotion and felt grateful for it, it’s time to take action.
As you learned from the information above, every emotion is trying to tell you something and help you improve the quality of your life.
Understand what the emotion is trying to tell you and take action immediately. The sooner you take action, the easier it will be to overcome the emotion. Don’t wait to hit rock bottom to take action!
Emotions are body wisdom. They are your greatest ally. They are always there to support you, even though it may not seem like that at first.
Paying attention to your daily emotions is crucial for high emotional intelligence. Ask yourself several times per day ”What emotion am I feeling right now?” and ”What circumstances are creating this emotion?”
The best thing you can do is to keep a journal about your emotions. Every week review it and look for patterns. Pay attention to what situations in your life create positive emotions and what situations create negative emotions.
Do more of the things that make you happy and eliminate the situations that make you feel unhappy.
Happiness is your birthright! Make sure to spend the majority of your time feeling positive emotions.
Before You Leave
I would love to hear back from you. What are some of the repetitive emotions you experience every day? How are you planning on increasing the happy emotional states in your life and eliminating the destructive ones?
Let me know in the comments down below and if you have any questions, feel free to ask me 🙂
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