We often hear motivational speakers talk about limiting beliefs. But what are some of the most common limiting beliefs and how to replace them? That’s exactly the topic of today’s post.
What are limiting beliefs anyway? Limiting beliefs are all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, other people, and life in general.
It’s important to overcome limiting beliefs because otherwise, we will always be victims of our own circumstances. We’ll never take on opportunities when they arise and never unleash our fullest potential.
14 Most Common Limiting Beliefs & Empowering Alternatives
#1. It’s impossible to become successful unless you came from a wealthy family.
- Empowering Alternative: Anyone can become successful if they have the proper methods and a desire to help others.
#2. I never have enough money.
- Empowering Alternative: There is enough money for everyone. I need to learn how to get more of it.
#3. I’ll never be good enough.
- Empowering Alternative: I can become the best version of myself by working on my personal development every day.
#4. I wasn’t born beautiful, smart, and talented.
- Empowering Alternative: Beauty, intelligence, and talent do not have a strict definition. I know I am worthy and do not get influenced by society’s labels.
#5. A job is not supposed to make you happy. It’s supposed to make you money.
- Empowering Alternative: Many people love their jobs. When you love your career, work doesn’t feel like work. You get paid for doing something you love.
#6. I can’t start a business unless I have a business degree.
- Empowering Alternative: Anyone can start a business. Most successful entrepreneurs did not even graduate from high school.
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#7. I always put more effort into my friendships than I receive back. Either my friends don’t care about me, or I am just not good enough.
- Empowering Alternative: It’s my choice to put in effort into those I care about. I feel happy when I make others happy.
#8. I had an abusive and painful childhood. That trauma will stay with me for the rest of my life because I will never be able to forget it.
- Empowering Alternative: I realize that I had nothing to do with my childhood trauma. I was a victim back then, but now I am a victor. My past does not equal my future. I can be the creator of my future.
#9. Everybody around me is unhappy, so I am sad too.
- Empowering Alternative: Other people’s inability to be happy has nothing to do with my ability to create happiness for myself.
#10. I am unhappy because only bad things happen to me.
- Empowering Alternative: Everything happens for a reason. Whenever a problem arises, I try to identify what the universe is trying to teach me. When I manage to solve the problem, I will grow stronger.
#11. This is just who I am, and I can’t change.
- Empowering Alternative: I can become whoever I want to be. If I don’t like my current life situation, I can change it.
#12. Change is bad. I should stay the same for my entire life.
- Empowering Alternative: Change is necessary to become a better version of myself.
Success and Failure
#13. I always fail at everything I do. I am a failure.
- Empowering Alternative: Just because I failed several times doesn’t mean that I am a failure. Every failure is a learning opportunity that makes me stronger. I can learn from other people’s mistakes and reach success faster.
#14. I’d rather not try at all than risk failing.
- Empowering Alternative: I’d rather risk failure than regret not trying.
The first step to getting rid of limiting beliefs is to recognize them. Whenever you feel like you can’t do something, ask yourself, ”What limiting belief lies behind my fear?”.
Then ask yourself, ”Is this belief based on absolute facts?” Two examples of absolute fact are that gravitation exists and that water is wet.
Most likely, your belief is going to be based on your perception of a situation. Understand that you can shift the way you feel by simply shifting your focus.
Leave a comment with your biggest limiting belief, and if you wish, share with me how you are planning on overcoming it. I am here to support you 🙂