How to get rid of self-limiting beliefs and eplace them with more empowering ones?
We all have limiting beliefs that stop us from unleashing our full potential. You may not even be aware of the limiting beliefs you have, but the fact that you are not living your dream life shows that there is something holding you back.
A limiting belief is nothing more than a thought that got installed in your head, either from the people around you or your self-talk.
Here are eight steps on how to get rid of limiting beliefs.
1. Recognize The Limiting Belief
The first step is to recognize that you have a limiting belief holding you back.
Don’t just think about it! Verbalize it and say it out loud! It may feel uncomfortable, but saying it aloud will help you realize that this belief is not serving you.
After all, you can’t change something that you haven’t identified.
If you have a hard time putting your thoughts into words, here are some of the most common limiting beliefs that people have:
- I am not smart enough
- Nobody loves me
- I am not beautiful enough
- Only bad things happen to me
- I never have enough money
- I can’t be myself because people will judge me
- Everybody is against me
2. Write It Down On a Piece of Paper
There is something powerful about putting words on paper.
When you write down your thoughts, your mind processes the information better. You get a sense of relief, and you can think more clearly.
I don’t recommend writing the limiting belief on a computer. The effect is not the same. That’s because handwriting takes longer, and your mind has more time to process the information.
Take a moment now and write down all of your limiting beliefs that come to mind.
3. Identify Where That Limiting Belief Came From
Were you born with limiting beliefs? Of course not!
Babies are born believing that they can have anything. They don’t have shame, they don’t have guilt, and they are not afraid of failure.
Do you think a baby feels guilty for keep crying all night and not letting his parents sleep? No!
The baby knows that whatever he needs, there is someone who can give it to him.
Have you ever seen a baby that stops trying to learn how to walk just because he keeps falling?
When Are Limiting Beliefs Formed?
You see, we were born believing that we can have it all. But as we grow older, the people around us start telling us that we can’t have certain things.
When you wanted an expensive toy as a kid, your parents probably told you ”No, you can’t have this. It’s too expensive. Do you think we are made of money?”
That’s when a child starts forming one of the most common limiting beliefs that money is never enough. The majority of your limiting beliefs are formed between the age of 7 and 14.
Think about your childhood. Is there a negative memory that immediately comes to mind? That’s probably the root cause of the majority of your limiting beliefs.
Now think deeper. Is there something someone told you as a child that led to a limiting belief?
Take a moment now to write next to each of your limiting beliefs, where they might have come from.
4. Understand That This Limiting Belief Did Not Come From You
Now that you have identified the cause of your limiting beliefs tell yourself that these beliefs did not come from you.
These limiting beliefs got installed in your mind from the people around you, but they do not belong to you.
Imagine you have a giant suitcase full of limiting beliefs. Open that suitcase and hand over each limiting belief to the person who gave you that negative thought.
Let’s say your teacher kept telling you that you are not smart enough. Imagine walking into that classroom with the suitcase. Open it, grab the limiting belief, and hand it over to your teacher with the words ”I think this belongs to you” and then walk away.
Do the same for everyone that you feel installed limiting beliefs in your mind.
5. Replace The Limiting Belief with an Empowering One
What empowering beliefs do you want to have? Don’t think of whether your family and friends will like these beliefs. You get to choose!
First, you make your beliefs, and then your beliefs make you!
Here are a few ideas:
- I am not smart enough –> I am learning every day
- Nobody loves me –> I am surrounded by love
- I am fat –> My body feels amazing when I exercise and eat healthily
- I don’t have enough money –> I can have as much money as I want
You may also be interested in: 10 Limiting Beliefs About Money That Keep You Broke
6. Look For Evidence
It will take time for the new beliefs to sink in. You have had these limiting beliefs your entire life. Don’t just expect them to disappear completely overnight.
A great way to speed up the process is to look for evidence that the new beliefs are true. Find role models that live by these principles.
Find people who have the empowering beliefs you want to adopt. Surround yourself with them. If your role models are celebrities, follow them on social media and consume all of their content.
The mind learns through repetition. The more you immerse yourself in the new beliefs, and the more you repeat positive statements to yourself, the sooner your mind will start to believe that they are true.
7. Take On The Identity of a Person with the Empowering Belief
The universe doesn’t give you what you want. It gives you who you are.
Start acting as if you have taken the identity of a person with empowering beliefs.
If you want to lose weight and your friend offers you chips, say ”No, thank you. I am not the kind of person who eats unhealthy food.”
If you are about to give a presentation but feel stressed and insecure, stop for a moment and remind yourself that you are taking on the identity of an intelligent person with high self-esteem that has nothing to worry about.
8. Repeat The Empowering Belief To Yourself
Many people talk about affirmations. I wouldn’t say I like that word because it sounds like you are trying to convince your mind to believe in something that isn’t true.
I prefer to say ”statements of truth” because that’s what they are.
Plain repetition won’t change your current limiting beliefs. A strong belief must accompany the statements you say to yourself that what you want is on its way to you.
If you are overweight, don’t just say that you are slim, because that’s not true. Instead, say, ”My body loves healthy food. I feel so great after an exercise”. Your mind is much more likely to believe that because it is true.
I hope this article helps you get rid of your limiting beliefs. Please share it with someone who can benefit from it.
I suggest you bookmark this page because you may have to re-read it every now and then when you spot a new limiting belief.
Remember that you only have one life, so get rid of your limiting beliefs ASAP and start living life on your terms.